FORBIDDEN IS INTERESTING

Have you ever wondered why many of us are drawn to do anything forbidden?

Since I was a toddler, I couldn’t deny how I found the things my parents didn’t want me to touch, lick, and play with very irresistible. Picture out a kid who gets delighted with her Mom’s glasses who all of a sudden squeals when the glasses are grabbed from her. Ooppss!!!!! It’s forbidden kid! You might damage it! No!!!!!! or a very excited little girl who is denied to join her Mom in cooking or washing the clothes ……….but still mischievously insists to…………..sorry kid it’s forbidden. Wait ‘till you reach 12…………..

Now, how about those kids in grade school……….they do everything just to play computer games and watch TV instead of studying their lessons or escape from their house during rainy season and play outside with their friends even if they are not allowed to……………because again, forbidden is interesting.

Way back in my high school years, I could still recall my parents constantly haranguing me not to have a boyfriend while still schooling. There was one time when I got head over heels in love with one of my attractive suitors, I tend to ignore my fear to my parents. I became more excited to have a date with that guy. Other than that, I got deprived of many other things other adolescents had fortunately much fun with in my youthful years. And I definitely found those things my parents didn’t want me to do very desirable. No wonder I had several friends before who turned more rebellious when restricted to do the things that usually perk up the youngs’ curiosity. Like most of the teenagers now, they got into tacit affair. They stealthily went out at night, engaged in premarital sex………..or worse, even eloped. Many of them got pregnant at early age……………..stopped schooling…………got addicted to drugs……….indulged in fraternities/sororities………………because many teenage whims and fantasies are usually strictly forbidden.

Even in my early 20’s, still, I never had the total freedom to do almost all the things I relished. The curfew time set for me at home pissed me off. I hate my Dad when he started telling the “don’t’s” to me . Although he disallowed me from hanging out with friends late at night still, I found ways to enjoy bar-hopping and got back home at the wee hours of the morning. LOL! I just slept on his deafening litany and I ended up hurt everytime i answered back………………..the more my Dad wanted me to be back home early from a date with my boyfriend who is now my hubby, the more I tarried and got home late. The more often he told me not to watch movie with my boyfriend and backride my boyfriend’s scooter, the more I kept on doing it…….leaving my Dad’s blood pressure escalating. Grrrrrrrrrrr……………And the most restricted thing I did was having a civil wedding when my Dad wanted it to be in the church……….this was another thing that made my father brimming in anger……….. well, I’m so sorry Pa, there’s nothing you can do about it. I was turning 27 then to decide for my own. I bet there are many of you guys who did the same thing………….like what I said, doing the forbidden is truly fun and the thrill is overpowering!

Now that I’m married and in my late 20’s, I think I’m almost fully-grown up if not totally mature for my age. But still, im not spared from forbidden stuff……………e.g. no to too much spending and shopping , no to nagging my hubby, no to investigate my hubby’s whereabouts and sneakily read his phone messages, no to jealousy and other “don’t’s” which I can’t ironically stop doing.

I heard from my female friends about their hubby’s infidelity. I also received calls from my male friends who are working abroad informing me how they have been cheated by their wives while they are away……………what’s the reason behind all these? Because married men and women are more interesting and attractive because they are restricted.

At work, I wonder how most of us punch our cards late when we’re always reminded that punctuality is a must. Why do we love to procrastinate with our respective work assignments when we know that having delays in one task may snowball and get us buried with piles of work eventually? Why is bad-mouthing or backbiting other people in the office is more interesting than discussing things for work improvement? Because forbidden things are hard to resist from.

Everytime I turn on the TV, the crime scenes are always the highlight of the news report. Rape, corruption, homicide, robbery, kidnapping, bombing, drug trafficking and other sorts of heinous crime are always featured. All these are forbidden yet a lot of bandits are unfazed to engage in.
All the yummy goodies in the fridge and in the grocery store are those which are mostly declared as junk food. The chocolates, ice cream, cakes, chips and other carbo-and-calorie-loaded food are among those which are in the “no-good-for-the-health-food stuff” list of any dietician. But we just can’t deny how we find them more appealing than a bowl of veggies and fruits.
The fatty food” like “letchon”, “balbacua”, “humba, “crispy pata”, deep-fried food as well as the salty food which includes salted and dried fish are the most after-sought menus. The risk of hypertension and heart attack has heightened among the elders since many of them hardly resist those forbidden fat-packed viands.

Smoking and drinking are among those killer vices around the world. But cigarette and liquor manufacturing are some of the lucrative businesses. Many find it hard to evade smoking and drinking alcohol. Forbidden is just addicting!

All the things above are “FORBIDDEN” simply because they won’t do any good to us at all or in short, they are all unacceptable yet they are interesting and tempting. Unless they become insipid or uninteresting, life will be trouble-free……………better hate the forbidden guys!